I am now starting my 3 day of my new job, and what a great commute I have now. It takes me about 20 minutes each way, no real traffic jams, and a much better job for me.
As for my dating life..... unchanged.
Wednesday, September 26, 2007
Tuesday, September 18, 2007
What I want...
The following is a Compatibility Profile that has been created automatically by a online dating site. Keep in mind that not all of this is correct, but it's pretty accurate.
Peter's Compatibility Profile® Summary
No person can be fully described or defined by a few short sentences. However, here are several of the most important characteristics revealed by your Compatibility Profile that you should keep in mind as you search for your ideal mate:
Some of your ideal mates strongest personality characteristics are:
She is very caring, compassionate and sensitive towards the needs of others.
She is always a very loyal and reliable friend.
She tends to like to get things done when they need doing, although she may sometimes procrastinate.
Although she doesn't try to be the "life of the party," there are times when she is very outgoing and energetic.
Some important qualities that your ideal partner brings to the relationship are:
She is a great communicator.
It is easy for her to connect with people.
She is usually open-minded and flexible.
She is generally pretty happy about her life.
Important goals and values for your ideal mate in a relationship are:
Working to give something back into the community is important to her.
She believes that working to make the world a better place is a "hands-on" activity.
Family ties are important to her.
Although she probably won't be strongly religious, it may be important to her that she shares her core spiritual beliefs with her life partner.
Social Orientation
Social Orientation describes how much of your behavior is motivated by the desire to get along with and be liked by other people, as well as how much is driven by the desire to be seen as an effective problem solver who is self sufficient. People with a strong External Orientation place a high value on communicating their thoughts and feelings with other people. People with a strong Internal Orientation place a high value on individual effectiveness, competence and autonomy. The dimensions that we assess as part of your Social Orientation are Conflict Management, Character, Vitality and Security, Communication Style, Kindness and Autonomy.
Based on your profile, you are most compatible with women who fit the following descriptions:
Character: Your ideal match is a woman who is unfailingly honest and reliable. She's not even tempted by unethical acts that others might find acceptable, like using bootlegged software or burning illegal copies of compact discs. Her friends describe her as loyal and trustworthy.
Kindness: Your ideal mate wants to be there for you in good times and bad. She'll generally put your feelings first. Others see her as the kind of person who'd drop everything to help a friend sort out a problem or celebrate a success. She is thoughtful and considerate, and she will expect you to treat her the same way.
Some additional details about your ideal mate:
Autonomy: You will be best matched with someone who wants to know all of the important things about your past. She'll be equally interested in living in the present and planning a future. She won't need to know every detail about your life or every thought that crosses your mind. She's the kind of person who sees herself as part of a couple but still maintains her independence and identity.
Vitality and Security: You need a woman who is honest and reliable. She has a good understanding of what it takes to make a relationship work over the long haul. She wants to build a relationship that will last but doesn't need you for constant support.
Communication: You will have the best relationship with a woman who believes easy conversation is essential to a good relationship. She's comfortable speaking her mind, but she also sees the importance of listening to someone else's point of view. Friends and family appreciate her ability to listen and speak with candor.
Conflict Resolution: You'll be happiest with a woman who tries to avoid conflict altogether. When she does have a disagreement, she tries to keep the peace instead of adding fuel to the fire. Resolving the argument is generally more important to her than being right, but she will stand up for herself.
Extraversion
The Extraversion scale assesses how you feel when you are around people. Extroverts are generally comfortable at the center of attention. They rarely feel a need for "alone time" and are almost always eager to meet new people. Introverts, on the other hand, avoid the spotlight when they can, approach many social gatherings with hesitation, and relish time spent with good friends whom they know well. While most people exhibit a mix of Introvert and Extrovert qualities based on what kind of social situation they are in, people who are strongly Extroverted often place the largest value on having many friends and making new friends easily. In contrast, people who are strongly Introverted generally place the highest value on having a few very deep and meaningful friendships. The dimensions of your profile which are associated with Extraversion are Emotional Energy, Sociability, Adaptability, Humor, Romantic Passion and Dominance.
Based on your profile, you are most compatible with women who fit the following descriptions:
Romantic Passion: You will be happiest with a woman who appreciates romance but doesn't expect it every day. She's the kind of woman who may be affectionate in private but doesn't necessarily enjoy sappy sentiments or public displays of affection. She wants to have a connection with her partner, but that can happen during a quiet dinner for two or while doing something active like taking a walk.
Emotional Energy: You'll be happiest with a woman who has a general routine. She might throw the schedule out the window if friends invite her on a new adventure, like a hiking expedition or a visit to a new jazz bar. But she doesn't need constant excitement to be happy. She can also appreciate a relaxed weekend watching movies at home.
Some additional details about your ideal mate:
Adaptability: Your ideal mate is the kind of person who sticks to the tried-and-true rather than risking everything on an untested plan. She'd generally rather opt for a known solution that she knows has worked before or look to past results when making a decision. You will generally know exactly where she stands on an issue from day to day.
Dominance: You are best suited to someone who doesn't take competition to extremes. She likes to win but doesn't need to do so at all costs. She is aggressive when the situation warrants it, such as when vying for a promotion or playing tennis in front of a crowd, but can accept a loss with grace.
Sociability: You'll be happiest with a woman who likes to spend time with old friends and make new ones. She might not always be the first to strike up a conversation with a stranger, but she is rarely tongue-tied once the conversation is underway. At parties, she's the type of person who isn't afraid to venture outside her group of friends.
Humor: Your ideal mate is the kind of woman who likes to spend her time and energy on more important things than making jokes. She was never the class clown and has little interest in trying to make people around her laugh with things like pranks or riddles. She's mature and knows when to take things seriously.
Openness
Openness refers to a person's willingness to experience new and creative ideas. People who score low on Openness tend to place a high value on tradition and belonging to a group. People who score high on Openness tend to place a high value on imagination and individualism. Extreme scores on Openness also often distinguish between people who enjoy thinking in symbols and abstractions to people who prefer ideas which are clear and concrete. The dimensions of your profile that we consider as part of Openness are Artistic Passion, Curiosity and Intellect.
Based on your profile, you are most compatible with women who fit the following descriptions:
Curiosity: You will be well matched with a woman doesn't feel the need to question everything. She doesn't like to waste time learning about things she doesn't consider relevant to her life. She is generally satisfied with how the world works and isn't constantly questioning the "why" and "how" of everything.
Intellect: Your ideal mate is the kind of person who thinks going with your gut instinct is as important as accumulating data to make a decision. People who know her well probably see her as someone who likes to rely on her heart when faced with a tough choice. She generally bases her decisions on what "feels right."
Artistic Passion: You are best suited to a woman who feels little need to spend time on the arts and culture. On the other hand, she might not know a Picasso from a Pissaro, but she also isn't snobby or has finicky tastes. Her friends and family probably think of her as someone who prefers pop-culture to high-art and prefers news magazines to the latest literary triumph.
Physicality
Physicality separates people who enjoy being physically energetic and active from those who are uncomfortable or dislike engaging in sports or strenuous activity. Some people push life to the limit, scaling mountains or competing in triathlons. People with a less demanding sense of Physicality enjoy looking at mountains more than climbing them. The dimensions of your profile which compose the most important aspects of your Physicality are Appearance, Physical Energy and Sexual Passion.
Based on your profile, you are most compatible with women who fit the following descriptions:
Appearance: You will be well matched with a woman who invests a lot of time and care in her looks. To look her best, she pays attention to the little details, and she is generally well groomed and in good shape. She will appreciate the effort you put into your own appearance.
Sexual Passion: You'll be most fulfilled by the kind of woman who believes sex is an important part of a great relationship, but not the only part. She is looking for physical chemistry with a man, the kind of spark that comes from genuine romantic attraction. However, she also appreciates that there is more to a "real relationship" than sex.
Physical Energy: You are best suited to someone who likes to stay active but also enjoys spending quiet time at home. She makes staying healthy and exercising a normal part of her life, but she also enjoys kicking back and relaxing when the time is right.
Goal Orientation
Goal Orientation refers to the drive to plan for the future versus the urge to live in the moment. People who score low on Goal Orientation are generally spontaneous and free spirited. They are likely to act on their first impulse and worry about the consequences afterwards and place a high value on being clever and lucky. People who score high on Goal Orientation, on the other hand, are more driven to think about future consequences before acting, place a high value on being wise and cautious, and like to always put their best foot forward. The dimensions of your profile that relate to your Goal Orientation are Industry, Ambition, Organization and Education.
Based on your profile, you are most compatible with women who fit the following descriptions:
Organization: You are best suited to a woman who lives her life according to daily or weekly routines. But she isn't afraid to stray from the course. She can be spontaneous, and she might surprise you sometimes. She likes structure in her life, but she doesn't want to get stuck in a rut.
Industry: You are best suited to a woman who is hard-working yet still takes time out to relax. She is goal-oriented and enjoys accomplishing things, but she doesn't let it consume her. She likes to stay busy, but she isn't averse to a little fun once the work is done.
Some additional details about your ideal mate:
Ambition: You will be happiest with a woman who isn't obsessed with things like career advancement, money and power. She is content with her current status in life. She cares about her performance professionally and wants to be popular socially, but she isn't comparing herself to everyone around her.
Education: Your ideal mate is a woman who wants her partner to be a person who is her intellectual equal. She's the kind of person who discusses the issues of the day, like politics, religion, science or the arts. She values learning and is accomplished academically.
Emotional Temperament
While day-to-day events play a major role in our feelings, there are deep-seated patterns of emotion that underlie our personality and stretch across the span of our lives. These patterns are considered your Emotional Temperament. People who score high on Emotional Temperament are generally upbeat about life and are slow to get upset in the face of minor setbacks or disappointments. People who score low on Emotional Temperament are more likely to experience feelings such as anxiety, anger and depression on a regular basis. The dimensions of your profile that compose your Emotional Temperament are Mood Management, Self-Concept, Emotional Status, Anger Management and Obstreperousness.
Based on your profile, you are most compatible with women who fit the following descriptions:
Anger Management: Your ideal mate is a master at remaining calm in the midst of a heated argument. Even in the middle of a fight, she can think clearly and avoids getting defensive, and she doesn't take cheap shots that'll make the fight worse.
Mood Management: You will be most satisfied with someone who is optimistic, kind and calm. She has emotional ups and downs, but they're not extreme. Her moods are generally stable. When she's feeling down, which is rare, she's soon able to cheer herself up.
Some additional details about your ideal mate:
Self-Concept: Your ideal match is someone who is self-assured and agreeable. She believes in herself, so she is willing to take the occasional risk. She wants to fit in but doesn't feel the need to change in order to do so. Her friends most likely describe her as someone who's secure.
Emotional Status: You are best suited to a woman who is generally happy and hopeful for the future. There are things in her life she'd like to improve, but she generally has faith that she'll attain her goals. She's not the type of person to overreact when she has a problem. Friends see her as someone who tries to focus on the positive.
Obstreperousness: Your ideal mate is someone who isn't afraid to stand up for her opinions, but doesn't always feel the need to do so. You need someone who has beliefs and confidence strong enough to match your own. However, you will not do well with someone who needs to dominate every conversation and win every argument. You will do best with someone who knows when to speak her mind, and when to just go along with the people around her.
Values
Many significant ingredients, like upbringing, family goals and spirituality combine to form a person's values and beliefs. Whatever form they take, your values are one of the most powerful determinants of your behavior. Values also play a large role in who we feel comfortable being around and who we find attractive. Dissimilarity in values generally causes discomfort or awkwardness in social situations. Although close friends, family and loved ones can often have one or two stark contrasts in their values, this is made possible by a greater number of shared values, backgrounds and experiences that provide a framework of comfort and similarity. When building an intimate relationship, establishing shared values early on is key to long-term success. The dimensions that we consider as part of your Personal Values are Traditionalism, Spirituality, Family Goals and Altruism.
Based on your profile, you are most compatible with women who fit the following descriptions:
Family Goals: Your ideal mate shares your desires to start a new family and experience the joys of parenthood. She loves kids and expects that they will play a central role in her life.
Family Background: Your ideal mate is someone who had a good childhood. Like most people, her family had problems, but it was healthy overall. Her expectations of relationship are realistic, and she will understand if you don't always get along with your family.
Some additional details about your ideal mate:
Spirituality: Your ideal mate is someone who is probably either involved in a religious community or who has an individualistic spiritual life. She's the kind of person who finds herself drawn on occasion to faith communities. She might attend services but may not be an active member of a congregation.
Traditionalism: You'll be happiest with a woman who considers herself a good person: She has strong values and her moral beliefs are an important part of who she is. She probably believes that values related to religion, country and family provide important general guidelines for life.
Altruism: Your ideal mate is someone who cares about the needy. She believes society is dependent on everyone to solve problems, so she turns her convictions into action. Perhaps she volunteers at the local soup kitchen or organizes a recycling or clothing drive. She's known for her willingness to do whatever she can to assist others.
Peter's Compatibility Profile® Summary
No person can be fully described or defined by a few short sentences. However, here are several of the most important characteristics revealed by your Compatibility Profile that you should keep in mind as you search for your ideal mate:
Some of your ideal mates strongest personality characteristics are:
She is very caring, compassionate and sensitive towards the needs of others.
She is always a very loyal and reliable friend.
She tends to like to get things done when they need doing, although she may sometimes procrastinate.
Although she doesn't try to be the "life of the party," there are times when she is very outgoing and energetic.
Some important qualities that your ideal partner brings to the relationship are:
She is a great communicator.
It is easy for her to connect with people.
She is usually open-minded and flexible.
She is generally pretty happy about her life.
Important goals and values for your ideal mate in a relationship are:
Working to give something back into the community is important to her.
She believes that working to make the world a better place is a "hands-on" activity.
Family ties are important to her.
Although she probably won't be strongly religious, it may be important to her that she shares her core spiritual beliefs with her life partner.
Social Orientation
Social Orientation describes how much of your behavior is motivated by the desire to get along with and be liked by other people, as well as how much is driven by the desire to be seen as an effective problem solver who is self sufficient. People with a strong External Orientation place a high value on communicating their thoughts and feelings with other people. People with a strong Internal Orientation place a high value on individual effectiveness, competence and autonomy. The dimensions that we assess as part of your Social Orientation are Conflict Management, Character, Vitality and Security, Communication Style, Kindness and Autonomy.
Based on your profile, you are most compatible with women who fit the following descriptions:
Character: Your ideal match is a woman who is unfailingly honest and reliable. She's not even tempted by unethical acts that others might find acceptable, like using bootlegged software or burning illegal copies of compact discs. Her friends describe her as loyal and trustworthy.
Kindness: Your ideal mate wants to be there for you in good times and bad. She'll generally put your feelings first. Others see her as the kind of person who'd drop everything to help a friend sort out a problem or celebrate a success. She is thoughtful and considerate, and she will expect you to treat her the same way.
Some additional details about your ideal mate:
Autonomy: You will be best matched with someone who wants to know all of the important things about your past. She'll be equally interested in living in the present and planning a future. She won't need to know every detail about your life or every thought that crosses your mind. She's the kind of person who sees herself as part of a couple but still maintains her independence and identity.
Vitality and Security: You need a woman who is honest and reliable. She has a good understanding of what it takes to make a relationship work over the long haul. She wants to build a relationship that will last but doesn't need you for constant support.
Communication: You will have the best relationship with a woman who believes easy conversation is essential to a good relationship. She's comfortable speaking her mind, but she also sees the importance of listening to someone else's point of view. Friends and family appreciate her ability to listen and speak with candor.
Conflict Resolution: You'll be happiest with a woman who tries to avoid conflict altogether. When she does have a disagreement, she tries to keep the peace instead of adding fuel to the fire. Resolving the argument is generally more important to her than being right, but she will stand up for herself.
Extraversion
The Extraversion scale assesses how you feel when you are around people. Extroverts are generally comfortable at the center of attention. They rarely feel a need for "alone time" and are almost always eager to meet new people. Introverts, on the other hand, avoid the spotlight when they can, approach many social gatherings with hesitation, and relish time spent with good friends whom they know well. While most people exhibit a mix of Introvert and Extrovert qualities based on what kind of social situation they are in, people who are strongly Extroverted often place the largest value on having many friends and making new friends easily. In contrast, people who are strongly Introverted generally place the highest value on having a few very deep and meaningful friendships. The dimensions of your profile which are associated with Extraversion are Emotional Energy, Sociability, Adaptability, Humor, Romantic Passion and Dominance.
Based on your profile, you are most compatible with women who fit the following descriptions:
Romantic Passion: You will be happiest with a woman who appreciates romance but doesn't expect it every day. She's the kind of woman who may be affectionate in private but doesn't necessarily enjoy sappy sentiments or public displays of affection. She wants to have a connection with her partner, but that can happen during a quiet dinner for two or while doing something active like taking a walk.
Emotional Energy: You'll be happiest with a woman who has a general routine. She might throw the schedule out the window if friends invite her on a new adventure, like a hiking expedition or a visit to a new jazz bar. But she doesn't need constant excitement to be happy. She can also appreciate a relaxed weekend watching movies at home.
Some additional details about your ideal mate:
Adaptability: Your ideal mate is the kind of person who sticks to the tried-and-true rather than risking everything on an untested plan. She'd generally rather opt for a known solution that she knows has worked before or look to past results when making a decision. You will generally know exactly where she stands on an issue from day to day.
Dominance: You are best suited to someone who doesn't take competition to extremes. She likes to win but doesn't need to do so at all costs. She is aggressive when the situation warrants it, such as when vying for a promotion or playing tennis in front of a crowd, but can accept a loss with grace.
Sociability: You'll be happiest with a woman who likes to spend time with old friends and make new ones. She might not always be the first to strike up a conversation with a stranger, but she is rarely tongue-tied once the conversation is underway. At parties, she's the type of person who isn't afraid to venture outside her group of friends.
Humor: Your ideal mate is the kind of woman who likes to spend her time and energy on more important things than making jokes. She was never the class clown and has little interest in trying to make people around her laugh with things like pranks or riddles. She's mature and knows when to take things seriously.
Openness
Openness refers to a person's willingness to experience new and creative ideas. People who score low on Openness tend to place a high value on tradition and belonging to a group. People who score high on Openness tend to place a high value on imagination and individualism. Extreme scores on Openness also often distinguish between people who enjoy thinking in symbols and abstractions to people who prefer ideas which are clear and concrete. The dimensions of your profile that we consider as part of Openness are Artistic Passion, Curiosity and Intellect.
Based on your profile, you are most compatible with women who fit the following descriptions:
Curiosity: You will be well matched with a woman doesn't feel the need to question everything. She doesn't like to waste time learning about things she doesn't consider relevant to her life. She is generally satisfied with how the world works and isn't constantly questioning the "why" and "how" of everything.
Intellect: Your ideal mate is the kind of person who thinks going with your gut instinct is as important as accumulating data to make a decision. People who know her well probably see her as someone who likes to rely on her heart when faced with a tough choice. She generally bases her decisions on what "feels right."
Artistic Passion: You are best suited to a woman who feels little need to spend time on the arts and culture. On the other hand, she might not know a Picasso from a Pissaro, but she also isn't snobby or has finicky tastes. Her friends and family probably think of her as someone who prefers pop-culture to high-art and prefers news magazines to the latest literary triumph.
Physicality
Physicality separates people who enjoy being physically energetic and active from those who are uncomfortable or dislike engaging in sports or strenuous activity. Some people push life to the limit, scaling mountains or competing in triathlons. People with a less demanding sense of Physicality enjoy looking at mountains more than climbing them. The dimensions of your profile which compose the most important aspects of your Physicality are Appearance, Physical Energy and Sexual Passion.
Based on your profile, you are most compatible with women who fit the following descriptions:
Appearance: You will be well matched with a woman who invests a lot of time and care in her looks. To look her best, she pays attention to the little details, and she is generally well groomed and in good shape. She will appreciate the effort you put into your own appearance.
Sexual Passion: You'll be most fulfilled by the kind of woman who believes sex is an important part of a great relationship, but not the only part. She is looking for physical chemistry with a man, the kind of spark that comes from genuine romantic attraction. However, she also appreciates that there is more to a "real relationship" than sex.
Physical Energy: You are best suited to someone who likes to stay active but also enjoys spending quiet time at home. She makes staying healthy and exercising a normal part of her life, but she also enjoys kicking back and relaxing when the time is right.
Goal Orientation
Goal Orientation refers to the drive to plan for the future versus the urge to live in the moment. People who score low on Goal Orientation are generally spontaneous and free spirited. They are likely to act on their first impulse and worry about the consequences afterwards and place a high value on being clever and lucky. People who score high on Goal Orientation, on the other hand, are more driven to think about future consequences before acting, place a high value on being wise and cautious, and like to always put their best foot forward. The dimensions of your profile that relate to your Goal Orientation are Industry, Ambition, Organization and Education.
Based on your profile, you are most compatible with women who fit the following descriptions:
Organization: You are best suited to a woman who lives her life according to daily or weekly routines. But she isn't afraid to stray from the course. She can be spontaneous, and she might surprise you sometimes. She likes structure in her life, but she doesn't want to get stuck in a rut.
Industry: You are best suited to a woman who is hard-working yet still takes time out to relax. She is goal-oriented and enjoys accomplishing things, but she doesn't let it consume her. She likes to stay busy, but she isn't averse to a little fun once the work is done.
Some additional details about your ideal mate:
Ambition: You will be happiest with a woman who isn't obsessed with things like career advancement, money and power. She is content with her current status in life. She cares about her performance professionally and wants to be popular socially, but she isn't comparing herself to everyone around her.
Education: Your ideal mate is a woman who wants her partner to be a person who is her intellectual equal. She's the kind of person who discusses the issues of the day, like politics, religion, science or the arts. She values learning and is accomplished academically.
Emotional Temperament
While day-to-day events play a major role in our feelings, there are deep-seated patterns of emotion that underlie our personality and stretch across the span of our lives. These patterns are considered your Emotional Temperament. People who score high on Emotional Temperament are generally upbeat about life and are slow to get upset in the face of minor setbacks or disappointments. People who score low on Emotional Temperament are more likely to experience feelings such as anxiety, anger and depression on a regular basis. The dimensions of your profile that compose your Emotional Temperament are Mood Management, Self-Concept, Emotional Status, Anger Management and Obstreperousness.
Based on your profile, you are most compatible with women who fit the following descriptions:
Anger Management: Your ideal mate is a master at remaining calm in the midst of a heated argument. Even in the middle of a fight, she can think clearly and avoids getting defensive, and she doesn't take cheap shots that'll make the fight worse.
Mood Management: You will be most satisfied with someone who is optimistic, kind and calm. She has emotional ups and downs, but they're not extreme. Her moods are generally stable. When she's feeling down, which is rare, she's soon able to cheer herself up.
Some additional details about your ideal mate:
Self-Concept: Your ideal match is someone who is self-assured and agreeable. She believes in herself, so she is willing to take the occasional risk. She wants to fit in but doesn't feel the need to change in order to do so. Her friends most likely describe her as someone who's secure.
Emotional Status: You are best suited to a woman who is generally happy and hopeful for the future. There are things in her life she'd like to improve, but she generally has faith that she'll attain her goals. She's not the type of person to overreact when she has a problem. Friends see her as someone who tries to focus on the positive.
Obstreperousness: Your ideal mate is someone who isn't afraid to stand up for her opinions, but doesn't always feel the need to do so. You need someone who has beliefs and confidence strong enough to match your own. However, you will not do well with someone who needs to dominate every conversation and win every argument. You will do best with someone who knows when to speak her mind, and when to just go along with the people around her.
Values
Many significant ingredients, like upbringing, family goals and spirituality combine to form a person's values and beliefs. Whatever form they take, your values are one of the most powerful determinants of your behavior. Values also play a large role in who we feel comfortable being around and who we find attractive. Dissimilarity in values generally causes discomfort or awkwardness in social situations. Although close friends, family and loved ones can often have one or two stark contrasts in their values, this is made possible by a greater number of shared values, backgrounds and experiences that provide a framework of comfort and similarity. When building an intimate relationship, establishing shared values early on is key to long-term success. The dimensions that we consider as part of your Personal Values are Traditionalism, Spirituality, Family Goals and Altruism.
Based on your profile, you are most compatible with women who fit the following descriptions:
Family Goals: Your ideal mate shares your desires to start a new family and experience the joys of parenthood. She loves kids and expects that they will play a central role in her life.
Family Background: Your ideal mate is someone who had a good childhood. Like most people, her family had problems, but it was healthy overall. Her expectations of relationship are realistic, and she will understand if you don't always get along with your family.
Some additional details about your ideal mate:
Spirituality: Your ideal mate is someone who is probably either involved in a religious community or who has an individualistic spiritual life. She's the kind of person who finds herself drawn on occasion to faith communities. She might attend services but may not be an active member of a congregation.
Traditionalism: You'll be happiest with a woman who considers herself a good person: She has strong values and her moral beliefs are an important part of who she is. She probably believes that values related to religion, country and family provide important general guidelines for life.
Altruism: Your ideal mate is someone who cares about the needy. She believes society is dependent on everyone to solve problems, so she turns her convictions into action. Perhaps she volunteers at the local soup kitchen or organizes a recycling or clothing drive. She's known for her willingness to do whatever she can to assist others.
Monday, September 17, 2007
About me
A little about me.
I'm a single white male. I am 5'6" approx 160 pounds, brown hair, brown eyes and an average build.
Now for the stuff I don't like to share.
If you have ever looked at an online dating site or any other relationship site chances are you have seen the dreaded "Personality Profile". That is where you enter all your personal information into and it tells you your set of subconscious wants and desires that drive their choices and attitudes. So here's mine from a reputable dating site.
Overview
By analyzing your answers to the Relationship Questionnaire we have created the following Personality Profile. Everyone has a set of subconscious wants and desires that drive their choices and attitudes. By asking you questions about a wide range of emotional issues, this report has established general patterns in your values.
Some of the following information may seem inaccurate or incomplete. Remember, that this profile is a snapshot of your personality at a specific moment. It is not intended as an in-depth analysis of your complete being, but as a tool to aid in self-discovery.
- You tend to be a traditionalist, and will enjoy the social environment best if it is stable and predictable. You dislike sudden decisions about where to go or what to do, preferring to think things out first.
- Others may perceive you as being undemonstrative and self-controlled. Not wanting to be the center of attention, you generally support others.
- You are a good friend and are always willing to help those you consider to be your friends. You also show strong ties, and will be uncomfortable when separated from your friends for an extended period.
- You may demonstrate positive possessiveness by developing strong attachments; however, you will not be overly involved as some others tend to do.
- You tend to dislike sudden or abrupt changes. You prefer things the way they are. Your motto might be: "If it's not broken, don't fix it."
- You prefer a warm, friendly environment free of conflict and hostility. In that environment, you prefer reassurance of your involvement and self-worth.
- You tend to be loyal to others. Your loyalty shows in a variety of ways including your "staying power" with relationships and activities.
- You have a basic need to be supportive of others. You will agree with others, sometimes even if it's not what you really want.
- Because of your lenient and complacent nature, others with fewer scruples may take advantage of you. You could, perhaps, benefit from greater assertiveness.
Communication
Each person has a unique way of communicating. We use a combination of body language, facial expression, verbal tone and word choice to share ourselves with others. The following statements offer a look at the natural behavior you bring to an interpersonal relationship.
- In your group, you may support the group leader rather than vie for a leadership position yourself. As a result, the group leader will usually appreciate the support you bring.
- You have a communications style which many people are comfortable with almost immediately. You are sincere, a good listener, not pushy and overall a comfortable person to be near.
- You tend to internalize conflict. As a result, if something about another is bothering you, you may bottle-up feelings and keep them inside.
- Others will notice that you are a sincere person about what you say and do. This trait, along with the excellent listening skills, creates an individual whom most people find pleasant to be with and a calming type of person.
- In communicating with others, you may support the mainstream ideas rather than new trailblazing activities. You may prefer the stable and traditional activities.
Improving Communications
Many different factors determine the communication styles with which you are most comfortable. Some individuals thrive on the challenge of pointed criticism, while others are at their best in a nurturing environment where criticism is offered as a suggestion for improvement. Each of us has a unique set of requirements and preferences. Below is a list of communication styles that will mesh well with your own. Having a partner who understands and practices these traits is important to your long-term happiness.
- Ask "How" questions to draw out opinions.
- Allow time to ask questions.
- Be sincere and use a tone of voice that shows sincerity.
- Move casually, informally.
- Keep the conversation at the discussion level, rather than confrontation.
- Work to achieve mutual satisfaction.
- Provide personal support and assurance.
- Provide solid, tangible, practical ideas and evidence.
- Listen sincerely.
- Support ideas for change with facts, figures and logic.
- Take time to be certain that you reach an agreement.
- Present ideas softly, nonthreateningly.
Strengths
Following are some of the specific strengths and/or personal characteristics that you bring to a relationship. These may form the foundations of many of your friendships and dealings with other people. Some will seem obvious, but you may be surprised by others. Take a moment to reflect on each and consider what role it may have played in your past successes, and even failures.
- You tend to work hard at making sure that other people are happy.
- You are excellent at listening to your partner.
- You are generally very patient with people.
- You are very respectful of the needs and wants of other people.
- You tend to bring feelings of security and stability to a relationship.
- You are good at reconciling (i.e. you don't like to sulk after a conflict is resolved).
- You are good at helping others to reach their goals.
- You are generally good at cooling down tense situations in a relationship.
- You take pride in being very loyal to friends and family.
- You are a dependable and caring partner.
- You tend to be a very calming influence in heated situations.
Needs
In general, human beings are defined by their needs and individuals by their wants. Your emotional wants are especially important when establishing with whom you are compatible. While answering the Relationship Questionnaire you established a pattern of basic, subconscious wants. This section of the report was produced by analyzing those patterns. Our wants change as we mature and obtain our life goals. You may find it valuable to revisit this section periodically to see how your wants have changed.
You may want:
- To feel important, but not be the leader.
- Status quo.
- Identification with your social group.
- To feel safe and secure in social situations.
- Sincerity offered from others.
- A feeling of security.
- No sudden or abrupt changes in the situation.
- Security for now, and in the future.
- Recognition for your loyalty.
- An environment free from conflict or hostility.
- Activities that may involve friends.
I'm a single white male. I am 5'6" approx 160 pounds, brown hair, brown eyes and an average build.
Now for the stuff I don't like to share.
If you have ever looked at an online dating site or any other relationship site chances are you have seen the dreaded "Personality Profile". That is where you enter all your personal information into and it tells you your set of subconscious wants and desires that drive their choices and attitudes. So here's mine from a reputable dating site.
Overview
By analyzing your answers to the Relationship Questionnaire we have created the following Personality Profile. Everyone has a set of subconscious wants and desires that drive their choices and attitudes. By asking you questions about a wide range of emotional issues, this report has established general patterns in your values.
Some of the following information may seem inaccurate or incomplete. Remember, that this profile is a snapshot of your personality at a specific moment. It is not intended as an in-depth analysis of your complete being, but as a tool to aid in self-discovery.
- You tend to be a traditionalist, and will enjoy the social environment best if it is stable and predictable. You dislike sudden decisions about where to go or what to do, preferring to think things out first.
- Others may perceive you as being undemonstrative and self-controlled. Not wanting to be the center of attention, you generally support others.
- You are a good friend and are always willing to help those you consider to be your friends. You also show strong ties, and will be uncomfortable when separated from your friends for an extended period.
- You may demonstrate positive possessiveness by developing strong attachments; however, you will not be overly involved as some others tend to do.
- You tend to dislike sudden or abrupt changes. You prefer things the way they are. Your motto might be: "If it's not broken, don't fix it."
- You prefer a warm, friendly environment free of conflict and hostility. In that environment, you prefer reassurance of your involvement and self-worth.
- You tend to be loyal to others. Your loyalty shows in a variety of ways including your "staying power" with relationships and activities.
- You have a basic need to be supportive of others. You will agree with others, sometimes even if it's not what you really want.
- Because of your lenient and complacent nature, others with fewer scruples may take advantage of you. You could, perhaps, benefit from greater assertiveness.
Communication
Each person has a unique way of communicating. We use a combination of body language, facial expression, verbal tone and word choice to share ourselves with others. The following statements offer a look at the natural behavior you bring to an interpersonal relationship.
- In your group, you may support the group leader rather than vie for a leadership position yourself. As a result, the group leader will usually appreciate the support you bring.
- You have a communications style which many people are comfortable with almost immediately. You are sincere, a good listener, not pushy and overall a comfortable person to be near.
- You tend to internalize conflict. As a result, if something about another is bothering you, you may bottle-up feelings and keep them inside.
- Others will notice that you are a sincere person about what you say and do. This trait, along with the excellent listening skills, creates an individual whom most people find pleasant to be with and a calming type of person.
- In communicating with others, you may support the mainstream ideas rather than new trailblazing activities. You may prefer the stable and traditional activities.
Improving Communications
Many different factors determine the communication styles with which you are most comfortable. Some individuals thrive on the challenge of pointed criticism, while others are at their best in a nurturing environment where criticism is offered as a suggestion for improvement. Each of us has a unique set of requirements and preferences. Below is a list of communication styles that will mesh well with your own. Having a partner who understands and practices these traits is important to your long-term happiness.
- Ask "How" questions to draw out opinions.
- Allow time to ask questions.
- Be sincere and use a tone of voice that shows sincerity.
- Move casually, informally.
- Keep the conversation at the discussion level, rather than confrontation.
- Work to achieve mutual satisfaction.
- Provide personal support and assurance.
- Provide solid, tangible, practical ideas and evidence.
- Listen sincerely.
- Support ideas for change with facts, figures and logic.
- Take time to be certain that you reach an agreement.
- Present ideas softly, nonthreateningly.
Strengths
Following are some of the specific strengths and/or personal characteristics that you bring to a relationship. These may form the foundations of many of your friendships and dealings with other people. Some will seem obvious, but you may be surprised by others. Take a moment to reflect on each and consider what role it may have played in your past successes, and even failures.
- You tend to work hard at making sure that other people are happy.
- You are excellent at listening to your partner.
- You are generally very patient with people.
- You are very respectful of the needs and wants of other people.
- You tend to bring feelings of security and stability to a relationship.
- You are good at reconciling (i.e. you don't like to sulk after a conflict is resolved).
- You are good at helping others to reach their goals.
- You are generally good at cooling down tense situations in a relationship.
- You take pride in being very loyal to friends and family.
- You are a dependable and caring partner.
- You tend to be a very calming influence in heated situations.
Needs
In general, human beings are defined by their needs and individuals by their wants. Your emotional wants are especially important when establishing with whom you are compatible. While answering the Relationship Questionnaire you established a pattern of basic, subconscious wants. This section of the report was produced by analyzing those patterns. Our wants change as we mature and obtain our life goals. You may find it valuable to revisit this section periodically to see how your wants have changed.
You may want:
- To feel important, but not be the leader.
- Status quo.
- Identification with your social group.
- To feel safe and secure in social situations.
- Sincerity offered from others.
- A feeling of security.
- No sudden or abrupt changes in the situation.
- Security for now, and in the future.
- Recognition for your loyalty.
- An environment free from conflict or hostility.
- Activities that may involve friends.
Sunday, September 16, 2007
My life....starting now
For those who know me, you will understand some of where this is coming. I have recently accepted a new job close to my home so I'm very excited about that. I have been working for many years, going to school, looking for a good stable job close to where I live trying to make my life the way I want it. However spending all my time going to school, working, and other lifes little pleasures, I have neglected a part of my life that I've never been good at.
Love.
I'm not talking about the one night physical love but the love that will last a lifetime. I've been taught to do my job, taught to be a good worker, taught to be a job person, but I have never been taught the rules of love.
For those of you who come across my life... starting now, you might find some of the information useful, you might learn something from my failures (there will be a lot of those). However you use this information, however you see me from the information I post, I'm just a hopeless romantic SWM looking for love.
Love.
I'm not talking about the one night physical love but the love that will last a lifetime. I've been taught to do my job, taught to be a good worker, taught to be a job person, but I have never been taught the rules of love.
For those of you who come across my life... starting now, you might find some of the information useful, you might learn something from my failures (there will be a lot of those). However you use this information, however you see me from the information I post, I'm just a hopeless romantic SWM looking for love.
Monday, April 16, 2007
Sunday, March 18, 2007
Laminate Flooring
After many, many hours, a few mistakes, 4 hand saws, sore knees, and a 12 hours stretch to finish it off, I've now finished installing the laminate flooring.
Thursday, March 08, 2007
Wednesday, March 07, 2007
Did I WOW them?
I had a job interview today for a really great job. Close to home, room for advancement, and great pay. I'm don't feel I WOWed them so I now wait for the phone call. :~
Sunday, February 11, 2007
Another year
Well another year gone, another year older, and another year of being single. Can someone please tell me what I'm doing wrong...
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