About me

A little about me.

I'm a single white male. I am 5'6" approx 160 pounds, brown hair, brown eyes and an average build.

Now for the stuff I don't like to share.
If you have ever looked at an online dating site or any other relationship site chances are you have seen the dreaded "Personality Profile". That is where you enter all your personal information into and it tells you your set of subconscious wants and desires that drive their choices and attitudes. So here's mine from a reputable dating site.

Overview

By analyzing your answers to the Relationship Questionnaire we have created the following Personality Profile. Everyone has a set of subconscious wants and desires that drive their choices and attitudes. By asking you questions about a wide range of emotional issues, this report has established general patterns in your values.

Some of the following information may seem inaccurate or incomplete. Remember, that this profile is a snapshot of your personality at a specific moment. It is not intended as an in-depth analysis of your complete being, but as a tool to aid in self-discovery.

- You tend to be a traditionalist, and will enjoy the social environment best if it is stable and predictable. You dislike sudden decisions about where to go or what to do, preferring to think things out first.

- Others may perceive you as being undemonstrative and self-controlled. Not wanting to be the center of attention, you generally support others.

- You are a good friend and are always willing to help those you consider to be your friends. You also show strong ties, and will be uncomfortable when separated from your friends for an extended period.

- You may demonstrate positive possessiveness by developing strong attachments; however, you will not be overly involved as some others tend to do.

- You tend to dislike sudden or abrupt changes. You prefer things the way they are. Your motto might be: "If it's not broken, don't fix it."

- You prefer a warm, friendly environment free of conflict and hostility. In that environment, you prefer reassurance of your involvement and self-worth.

- You tend to be loyal to others. Your loyalty shows in a variety of ways including your "staying power" with relationships and activities.

- You have a basic need to be supportive of others. You will agree with others, sometimes even if it's not what you really want.

- Because of your lenient and complacent nature, others with fewer scruples may take advantage of you. You could, perhaps, benefit from greater assertiveness.

Communication

Each person has a unique way of communicating. We use a combination of body language, facial expression, verbal tone and word choice to share ourselves with others. The following statements offer a look at the natural behavior you bring to an interpersonal relationship.

- In your group, you may support the group leader rather than vie for a leadership position yourself. As a result, the group leader will usually appreciate the support you bring.

- You have a communications style which many people are comfortable with almost immediately. You are sincere, a good listener, not pushy and overall a comfortable person to be near.

- You tend to internalize conflict. As a result, if something about another is bothering you, you may bottle-up feelings and keep them inside.

- Others will notice that you are a sincere person about what you say and do. This trait, along with the excellent listening skills, creates an individual whom most people find pleasant to be with and a calming type of person.

- In communicating with others, you may support the mainstream ideas rather than new trailblazing activities. You may prefer the stable and traditional activities.

Improving Communications

Many different factors determine the communication styles with which you are most comfortable. Some individuals thrive on the challenge of pointed criticism, while others are at their best in a nurturing environment where criticism is offered as a suggestion for improvement. Each of us has a unique set of requirements and preferences. Below is a list of communication styles that will mesh well with your own. Having a partner who understands and practices these traits is important to your long-term happiness.

- Ask "How" questions to draw out opinions.

- Allow time to ask questions.

- Be sincere and use a tone of voice that shows sincerity.

- Move casually, informally.

- Keep the conversation at the discussion level, rather than confrontation.

- Work to achieve mutual satisfaction.

- Provide personal support and assurance.

- Provide solid, tangible, practical ideas and evidence.

- Listen sincerely.

- Support ideas for change with facts, figures and logic.

- Take time to be certain that you reach an agreement.

- Present ideas softly, nonthreateningly.

Strengths

Following are some of the specific strengths and/or personal characteristics that you bring to a relationship. These may form the foundations of many of your friendships and dealings with other people. Some will seem obvious, but you may be surprised by others. Take a moment to reflect on each and consider what role it may have played in your past successes, and even failures.

- You tend to work hard at making sure that other people are happy.

- You are excellent at listening to your partner.

- You are generally very patient with people.

- You are very respectful of the needs and wants of other people.

- You tend to bring feelings of security and stability to a relationship.

- You are good at reconciling (i.e. you don't like to sulk after a conflict is resolved).

- You are good at helping others to reach their goals.

- You are generally good at cooling down tense situations in a relationship.

- You take pride in being very loyal to friends and family.

- You are a dependable and caring partner.

- You tend to be a very calming influence in heated situations.

Needs

In general, human beings are defined by their needs and individuals by their wants. Your emotional wants are especially important when establishing with whom you are compatible. While answering the Relationship Questionnaire you established a pattern of basic, subconscious wants. This section of the report was produced by analyzing those patterns. Our wants change as we mature and obtain our life goals. You may find it valuable to revisit this section periodically to see how your wants have changed.

You may want:

- To feel important, but not be the leader.

- Status quo.

- Identification with your social group.

- To feel safe and secure in social situations.

- Sincerity offered from others.

- A feeling of security.

- No sudden or abrupt changes in the situation.

- Security for now, and in the future.

- Recognition for your loyalty.

- An environment free from conflict or hostility.

- Activities that may involve friends.